Yesterday, I had a booth at the Journée de la
culture event in Embrun, Ontario, and as usual was offering free assessments. I
had the opportunity to meet a women who gave me a topic for today’s blog. Her
face was tight and serious, she had pimples in the lower part of her cheeks and
her eyes were dull. She asked what
I could do to help her skin.
Given the location of her pimples, I surmised that
the source was constipation and/or grief or depression. Her shallow breath and shoulders
held high and very tight, as if defending from something, also struck me. She
mentioned that she has constipation, is chronically depressed, and that people
have been mean to her since childhood and keep putting her down. She repeating
that story several times during the session.
The
gangsters within
This is a perfect example of how stress and
though patterns affect our emotions. They are like skilled but cruel gangsters
that rob us of our physical beauty and radiance. After suggesting a product for
her skin, I told her to take deep, long breaths, then pointed to her stiff
shoulders to help her bring awareness to what was going on in her body and away
from her mind. Throughout the conversation I reminded her several times to relax
the shoulders and the breath as she was unconsciously going back to the tightened
pattern.
A
pillar of light
I told her to imagine a pillar of warm, gold light
coming from the core of the Earth entering her spine through the coccyx all the
way up to the heart. I then told
her to see a similar pillar coming from way up in the sky entering her crown down
to the her heart, to merge the two and then distribute that to her whole body,
including her hands. Since she is a generous person, I told her to put her two
hands on her heart and be as generous with herself as with others.
You
attract what you believe
The transformation was striking. She was
smiling widely, her eyes were sparkling, her neck and shoulders were relaxed
and I could feel she was more grounded. I asked her how she felt. She said ‘So
great it’s hard to believe…. but when I am happy others feel jealous of me and
put me down again.’ Bringing her back to the now, I asked her how she felt
‘right now’. She said ‘I feel happy and relaxed, my jaw is not tight (she
didn’t notice she was smiling). But when I am happy… She repeated the same
story again. Her smile and sparkling eyes were gone again. Caught in the story, she didn’t realize
she was responsible for her own sadness and re-enforcing the pattern.
For some reason, you attach as dearly to the
old stories that keep you small as to your ‘good’ stories. Why is it so hard to
fully accept compliments such as “You are so beautiful and talented! You will
attract a fulfilling job, wealth, or a kind loving boy friend.”? You resist trading
the familiar because you are afraid of the unknown. It usually takes a
traumatic experience, a wake up call of sorts, such as a serious disease, a
relationship breakup or a threatening event to make a significant change.
The
cue
As hard as things can get, don’t miss the cue.
Consider this event as a blessing perfectly designed to help you take your
first step in a new direction. As the saying goes, doing the same things will
bring the same results. It doesn’t need to be that hard though. Changing one
thing in your life will bring new results. That thing can be as simple as
adopting a new breath pattern. All yoga and meditation practitioners know that,
but we forget on occasion and need to be reminded that we all have the power to
chose how we feel.
Re-write
your stories
So if you feel tight, victimized, ugly,
depressed, catch the recurring thoughts or emotions that deprive you of the
joy, wealth, power and beauty you naturally deserve, try this process:
- slow down and expand your breath
- check where your body is tight
- observe what is going on inside without judgment
- connect with the center of the Earth and with the furthest possible place in the Sky and imagine your spine filled with a permeating flow of warm golden light distribute that light everywhere in your body
- assess where you are right now and recognize the story for what it is, a story that can be re-written at will
- repeat this exercize often.
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